Is there beauty in being off-balance?

So we’re at the end of our month of balance and to be honest I’m not sure what I’ve taken from exploring this theme. I noticed I didn’t particularly enjoy it… seemed to have some resistance to it… liked the discoveries I made that reinforced my unbalanced behaviours and affirmed that they were OK… Supporting me not to challenge my patterns??? 😀

The question as to whether balance is achievable depends on, I think, how we define balance and perhaps the timeframe we’re looking at. I definitely had something going on that balance was about moderation and perhaps uniformity, things being equal… that to have balance there is no place for all or nothing… no place for ‘too muchness’ or ‘too littleness’… but I think I discovered that all and nothing (both/and) are ok at times and don’t mean we’re out of balance as long as there is both in the timeframe we’re looking at.

Maybe it felt like the topic was too enormous… For what are we talking about when we talk about balance? A balance of time? A balance of energy? A feeling of balance in the moment? Balanced emotions?

And as we’re talking about emotions… just to say… I think it’s unrealistic and dangerous to expect our emotions to be ‘balanced’… or maybe I should qualify that and say I think it’s unrealistic and dangerous to expect our emotions to be in moderation or uniform… I believe we’re supposed to feel the full range of emotions… and not supress them… see my post about the film Equalibrium :-O

I liked the idea that however we define balance, from whatever perspective we’re looking at, balance takes awareness… to know what balance is… to see what is in and out of balance… to make adjustments to move more into (or more out of? Might we want to do that?) balance…

Anything that I found about work/life balance seemed to send me into a rage! That whole term to me suggests there are two parts to life… work and then rest of life… when surely work is just one aspect of life. I know at times when I’ve sat down and done a ‘Wheel of Life’ type exercise it’s helped me to see what’s important to me and where I want to focus more energy (is that to put it back in balance?)…

The concept of yin & yang and never having ALL of one thing or another felt helpful… to think about a little bit of yin in the yang, e.g. a little bit of play in the work; a little bit of rest in the busyness; a little bit of stillness in the movement and a little bit of yang in the yin… a little bit of drive in the acceptance of what is; a little bit of external input in the inner wisdom; a little bit of movement in the stillness…

Perhaps it’s an individual thing… what brings balance for one person isn’t what brings it for another.

Balance feels different to the other themes we’ve explored so far this year. Love… consciousness… curiosity… joy… connection… wild… are all themes I feel totally bought into… they are qualities I want in my life… but I’m not sure about balance… I think perhaps I don’t value it… or maybe I’m just saying that as I feel I’m not very good at it! And so this month’s theme and the question I’ve asking myself ‘how to find balance?’ didn’t take me very far and maybe that because there’s a fundamental and deeper question I’ve not answered… Do I value balance or want it in my life?

Maybe there is beauty in being off-balance…

Anyhow… like we’ve said before… we don’t have all this stuff figured out… we’re in the mess of it with you! Would love to hear more about where balance took you this month…

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